Monday, January 12, 2009

My Next Step Down Memory Lane..

So, we continue the stroll down memory lane..

Once Kevin left for deployment, I didn't know what to do with myself. I'm not the outgoing type at all, so meeting friends wouldn't be easy. And honestly at that point, I still felt that the whole thing was temporary, so I didn't want to get close to anyone.. my way of protecting myself, I guess.

Anyway, I did end up meeting a few people on myspace and on cafemom who were wives that lived in the Beaufort base housing too. Eventually I went ahead and met a girl at her house that lived 2 streets over from me in base housing. I was excited and hoped for the best. We kinda hit it off at the beginning, but after many months it didn't really work out. We were totally different (and not in a good way). But on that first day that I went to her house, her friend Jennifer was there. Jennifer's husband was gone too, and actually worked in the AME shop with my husband.

This is the girl who kept me going through my pregnancy. She kept me sane while Kevin was gone (and even after.. frankly, men aren't easy to live with or without!). She was my second husband and Leala's second daddy.. haha. I love her, and I don't know how I could have done things without her. She did everything that Kevin would have done for me if he was there and all the things that a girlfriend does for you. She took me to 5 million places to pick out our Christmas tree... She went with me to go buy the changing table.. She even got me a discount on my recliner and then carried into my house! She was there when I was hormonal and needed to cry.. She was there when I was bored and didn't want to look at my house anymore. She was there when my back hurt. She was the one who hooked up little shocking things to my back to ease the pain. She was the one who I bought groceries with and helped carried them inside.. She was the one whose house I was at 24-7, to where I normally didn't have to buy groceries.. She was the one who took me out to eat when I just had to have Applebee's and nothing else.. She satisfied my sweet cravings and didn't talk too much trash about me when I ate 5 cupcakes in one sitting.. She was the one who helped me watch my sugar after I found out I had gestational diabetes. She helped me through the unknowns of pregnancy and motherhood. She gave me all of her daughter's old clothes! She let me stay at her house practically 24-7 for several months. She was my best friend. She is my best friend.

So yeah, after moving to South Carolina, determined not to meet anyone and make attachments, I go off and meet the best friend I've ever had.. Good going, huh?

In all honesty, it couldn't have been a better time. I thought I was strong. I thought I was hard. I thought I could do it all my own and that I didn't need anyone. Yeah right.. I learned how wrong I was.. and rather quickly too. I needed somone. I needed Jennifer and she was there.. always.

*Stay tuned til next time, and we'll continue my stroll down memory lane.*

*By the way, Jennifer. Thanks. I love you and I don't know what I'd do without you.*


He And Me + 3 said...

What a great friend. That is so awesome. Do you all still live near each other? Everyone needs atleast one friend like that.

Alicia said...

I always tell people that it's a blessing if you have at least one true blue friend!!

Jennifer said...

geeze. . way to make me cry. Thanks. lol. I love you too and that is what friends are for!

You know you helped me just as much. I would have been alone trying to survive a deployment if it wasn't for you!

I freaking miss you!!!

Caidens_mommy said...

I wish I had a friend like that :(